Honesty&Friendship

As a recent facebook status of mine said "truth hurts, but deception is just a waste of time". Pretenses or phoniness is really not getting anybody anywhere. Pretending you like someone - friend-wise or otherwise - more than you do just gets you unwanted time with a person you don't actually like. They will talk to you or be around you thinking you want them to, which just brings you to wasting time with someone you dislike. On the other side of it, the person is going to see sooner or later that you dont mean what you say and that you dont really want to be around them. Not only do they face realizing they're disliked, but also that they've been basically lied to. I think most people that 'do phony' do so because they dont want to hurt the person, or they think they're doing them some kind of favor. But there is no favor in fake friendliness. Its like eating some sort of fake unhealthy vegetable - your tongue loses cuz it tastes like crap yet your body loses too because its still unhealthy. (one lame analogy later...) The real favor would be upfront honesty, something I have always appreciated. Seriously, unless its some sort of 'office relationship' - being nicer than you want to because of your job type thing - being nicer than you feel toward someone or saying things you dont mean is pointless. For me, even harsh bluntness toward me feels better than realizing someone is full of crap toward me (so to speak). I guess I am sort of the opposite end of the spectrum from the philosophy of 'ignorance is bliss'.